Before you even embark upon the journey of working with spirits, please do yourself a favor and ask yourself:
Is working with Spirits really for me?
Asking yourself that question before you start down this road is pretty important. It’s a necessary introspective task for a few reasons.
First, understand that working with a spirit is generally a long-term project. You’ll need to have the time to make it a home, attract the spirit, and feed it regularly.
Some spirit work projects are short-term. You can definitely put a time limit on it by writing it into your pact. But this is a bit risky – you may or may not get the results you desire from a business-like transaction with some spirits, especially in an allotted timeframe. Some spirits prefer to have some time to finish out a project.
Second, you kind of have to be fearless for this particular kind of Craft. Or at least be very good at pretending to be fearless. (Got your poker face on?)
I don’t say that to try to make you afraid. I say that because there are certain types of spirits that expect you to behave a certain way.
The spirits of the Lemegeton, for example, might expect you to be fearful of them – at least at first. But you’ll have to show no fear to get them to agree to a pact, sometimes.
Deities, as another example, tend to expect you to be fearless – especially warrior deities. Goddesses who are revered as Sovereign Queens might expect you, as a modern feminist, to have already embraced your own Sovereign Queendom. Or, they might think you to be a groveling peasant, if you indicate that demeanor. And they will treat you accordingly.
One particular set of Irish deities – the Tuatha de’ Danann – are not strangers to their followers. They consider us to be family and expect us to act accordingly. We don’t go groveling at their feet, asking for favors. We go and tell them what’s happening and fully expect to either get good advice to handle the situation, or we get a hearty, “Fuck ‘em, I’ve got this – go chill.”
The biggest caveat about deities of any culture or variety I can offer you is not to go making deals with them with ulterior motives. They can see through any bullshit you might be throwing up. And if you deal with a deity, it had absolutely better be a long-term thing (for the majority of deities I’ve encountered, anyhow). Most will just not take kindly to business transactions. They either want your devotion in a religious sense, or they want to be considered kith and kin.
Thirdly, try not to ask certain types of spirits to do darker works. Pre-christian deities – though generally rather neutral in their outlooks – are far from immoral. It isn’t necessarily that the darker work itself is immoral – I don’t do “morality,” anyhow (I prefer ethics to morals). It’s just that there are non-Abrahamic deities who are insistent on a certain standard of nobility and honor. Asking an Irish Warrior Deity, for example, to kill your enemy without a justifiable reason could very well backfire. That deity may scoff at you, at best, or do to you what you asked him to do to your enemy, at worst.
Back to the example of the Tuatha de’ Danann – while most will gladly protect their kin, don’t ask them to do something against their kin without making sure you’re fully justified in your request. Check into the concept of the “warrior’s ethic,” and you’ll see what I mean. Then there is also the six principles upon which all of Brehon law was founded: honor, loyalty, hospitality, honesty, justice, and courage. You can read one awesome take on those principles here.
(For myself, the simplest way I define a Warrior’s Ethic is: “Do no harm, but take no shit.” Meaning: intentionally harming another creature, save for survival, is not acceptable – except it be in defense of one’s own well-being or the well-being of one’s loved ones. Many warrior deities exist with this code engrained into their makeup.)
Which brings me to this:
Differing Cultural Norms
What happens when you build a relationship with an entity that has different cultural norms than you do? What happens when they’re behavior or requests are socially unacceptable in our day?
About two decades ago, I had someone come to me (as I was beginning my Wiccan training) with news that I had no idea was coming. The man called himself a “Priest of Pan,” and said that he was informed (by Pan) that I was to also become a Priest of Pan.
I consulted with my then-current High Priestess and Initiator, and she concurred that dude was legit. I’d always been interested in Pan. It wasn’t just His sometimes lewd sexuality that intrigued me, or the fact that he was pansexual. The fact that Pan is a Satyr (a goat-man) piqued my interest early on – before even knowing anything about Wicca (I loved mythology, and read as much as I could find at the local public library). His love for joy, His exuberance for life, and the fact that He dwells in the woods (my favorite place to be, ever) also played a part in my curiosity. So, after much internal deliberation, I subjected myself to becoming a Priest of Pan.
I am still, to this day, a Priest of Pan.
The issue is: I know what is often required by Pan to make another Priest of Pan. And when Pan came to me to make another Priest of Pan a few years back, I soon recognized the concept of cultural differences and socially unacceptable behavior. (My vagueness here is purposeful. While I don’t shy away from controversy when it comes to my passionate opinions, this particular topic is not something to discuss here.)
The point is to be cautious.
If done correctly, working with a spirit will not give it control over your life and well-being. Nor will you be required to endanger the well-being of another. But you have to also know the difference between “socially unacceptable” and “downright dangerous.”
Do extensive research. Take copious notes. Know the spirit as in-depth as you can before calling out to them. The reason being: the more you know about that entity’s original cultural influences, the better equipped you’ll be if/when the spirit asks for something not quite kosher in our modern western society. You may think their request completely understandable and justifiable – but the “civilized world” may not. And in that case, you may have to look at a few different forks in the road.
When the issue of socially unacceptable behavior comes up (and it very likely will, if your deity or familiar is older than our current century), you have a few options.
- Deny the request altogether and attempt to move forward with the relationship. Let the entity know, in no uncertain terms, that this was/is not part of your bargain. This is one of the major reasons we write out pacts – so the agreement is already set down when something wonky comes up. And then request to continue the relationship, so long as this particular request does not arise again.
- Ask the entity for a reasonable substitute. In one instance, I’d been asked by a spirit I was working with to make a very specific animal sacrifice. While I’m not opposed to hunting for survival, and I have, indeed, killed animals before (for said survival), the animal requested was outright unreasonable. I had no intention of purchasing and killing a dove to meet a goal as I don’t eat dove. Instead, a white domesticated hen was acceptable to the spirit and things turned out nicely.
- Sever the relationship. Let the entity know that this request is in violation of the compact originally made between the two of you. As such, it is a breach of contract, which brings your business relationship to an end.
When dealing with spirit entities of any kind, you have to recognize something about yourself: you are in authority. You have a body and you are ultimately the spirit who makes the choices you make. You only have yourself to answer to, in most instances. You are the physical vehicle when working with spirits – you are their caretaker.
I’m not talking about slavery. I’m talking about a good, honest, working relationship with a spirit being other than yourself. But just like in any other aspect of life, you are the boss of your own existence. You have a right to end any relationship that threatens your well-being or your way of life. And it makes no difference whether that relationship is with a living person who happens to be toxic, or a non-corporeal entity.
You write the pact. You initiate the relationship. You make the choices. If a request is not feasible or does not meet your own ethical/moral/value compass, then you have a right to declare breach of contract. It’s that simple.
I’m currently still in relationship with Pan. He and I have an understanding about what is acceptable and what is not, and whom he can choose to have me bring in as a Priest of Pan. He has to know – before I do, even – if the individual is open to the activities necessary to become a Priest of Pan.
I know what you’re thinking: what in the hell is a “spirit house?” And there are a few answers. I’ll try to keep these brief.
In Southeast Asian countries, a spirit house is usually erected in a corner of the yard. It is a shrine, specifically to the spirits of the land – protective spirits, actually. It’s a miniature house or temple on a pedestal, and it’s purpose is to honor – and be a place of offering for – the spirits of the land. They can be extremely ornate, if the business that has one is fairly prosperous.
Others, like the one you see depicted, are less flashy, but still beautiful, and get the job done. The offerings are meant to appease the spirits so that peace and prosperity are not impeded from coming to the homeowner. Countries where this is a common practice include Burma, Cambodia, Laos and Thailand.
Something similar would be called a “spirit bottle,” though the intent may be different. The ingredients of spirit bottles often resemble the traditional Witch’s Protection Bottle, but are not buried. Instead, they’re decorated and placed in or on a shrine, or placed in a prominent place in the home.
I first encountered this practice in the 2000’s, when I visited the home of a friend who practiced Hoodoo. Her spirit bottle was a place to communicate with the dead – her ancestors – and give them offerings to appease them or to request work from them. These bottles were blue glass, decorated with various ribbons, feathers, beads and painted designs. And they always sat on her mantle.
In Santeria, a home for the Orisha is a “soupterine” or a “sopera.” It houses the “otanes,” or the stones associated with a specific Orisha. If I’m not mistaken, it also holds certain tools for the Orisha to use (called “things”) that are different for each Orisha. The sopera itself is just a house, but the otane it holds is considered a living entity, which must be regularly fed. It is said to be the dwelling place of the Orisha.
My own concept of a spirit house is not dissimilar to these ideas. How I define it for myself, however, comes from a familial practice that I refer to as, “Mountain Witchery.”
In my practice (and for the purposes of the rest of this post), a spirit house is a vessel wherein a familiar spirit dwells. Whether that familiar is a pagan deity, a spirit from the Lemegeton, an angelic entity, the Fey or another type of land spirit, is really immaterial. What matters is how you utilize the object. The definition is a result of the function – literally, a home for a familiar spirit.
One of the most common questions about the spirit house is, “Is the spirit really living inside the vessel?” There are multiple theories around this idea.
- The actual spirit, itself, takes up residence in the spirit house. It lives there, resting, until you communicate with it, feed it or ask it to do some work, etc.
- The whole spirit doesn’t reside in the vessel. Instead, a part of the entity’s essence abides there, simply because, as a spirit, there’s enough of it to “go around.” You might not be the only person working with this spirit, after all.
- The spirit doesn’t actually live inside the vessel. Instead, it’s a point of contact or a mode of communication and offering. The entity shows up when you call for it, which can be initiated by your feeding it or actually attempting a communication.
- Perhaps there isn’t just one spirit called by the name you use. Perhaps it isn’t the same spirit that others are pacting with at all, but a spirit that is willing to do that kind of work for you in order to gain it’s feeding. Maybe it isn’t the spirit you’re calling to at all.
- Maybe it’s really a servant of the spirit you’ve actually called to come work with you. Perhaps it’s a lesser, but just as powerful, spirit under the tutelage of the one you called. In that case, it could be a spirit taking up the work “in the name of” the entity you made the pact with.
All of these theories are great, but they’re just that: theories. No one has cornered the market on them, or on spirit work at all.
In my opinion (and from my experience), it’s probably more along the lines of a combo of the second and third theories. I believe that the spirit is a legitimate, self-aware entity, but that perhaps a bit of it’s essence is in the vessel in order to maintain contact and a communication point. Perhaps the essence that is present isn’t even really a consciousness or a conscious spirit, but just a mechanism to alert the full-on spirit entity that you’re ready to make nice and communicate, etc.
Nevertheless, every spirit vessel I’ve ever made has had the feeling of having an entity live there. The energy, if you will, doesn’t ebb and flow. It’s the feeling of a constant presence that makes the object a Spirit House, at least for me. So in this next bit, we’re going to talk about how to make a Spirit House – logistics, items to include, etc.
How to Make a Spirit House
The first thing you’re going to need is, obviously, some type of container. Options for a container include:
- A statue of a deity, if you’ll be working with a deity
- A nondescript fabric doll (preferably handmade by you)
- A nondescript wax doll sculpted from softened candle wax
- An actual miniature house, like a birdhouse, perhaps
- A small bowl for table sugar with a lid
- A box that you purchase or make
There are all kinds of options for the physical vessel. If you’re working with a spirit from the Lemegeton, for example, I recommend looking up in Liber 777 (Crowley) what metal or other material the spirit likes. You can then make or purchase a vessel of that material to make the house more suitable and pleasing to the spirit you’re calling.
In fact, Liber 777 can also give you clues as to the planetary timing of your ritual, as well as herbal and gemstone ingredients to put inside the vessel. The correspondences in Liber 777 are more obvious for spirits of the Lemegeton, but you can easily adapt them to any other spirit. Some cultural deities are listed in Liber 777, so it may not even be necessary to do much adaptation, depending on with whom you’re looking to build that relationship.
As an example, let’s say you want to work with the Goddess Astarte. You may discover, through some research, that she’s often equated with Ashteroth, a Canaanite fertility goddess. (Obviously, any deity is more than the category s/he is relegated to, but you get the idea.)
So you go to Liber 777 and find Ashteroth, written as “Asteroth.” Seeing that she’s on “Key Scale 26,” you find the following correspondences:
- Tarot: The Devil (XV)
- Element: Earth
- Planetary ruler: Saturn
- Secondary planet: Mars
- Scents: Asafoetida, Colophonum (?), Cubel Pepper
- Colors: black, blue-black, indigo
- Animals: goat, ass
- Plants: hemp, orchis (orris?) root, thistle, yohimba
- Stones: black diamond
- Human body: genitals
- Mythical figures: satyrs, fauns, “panic demons”
You might also take notice of other godforms related to Ashteroth. The listed ones include Pan (both Greek and Roman), Bacchus (Roman), Priapus (Greek), Lingam (Hindu, as in Shiva Lingam). All of these can use the same correspondences to build a spirit vessel for one of them, if you so choose, instead of Ashteroth.
Once you’ve determined your chosen spirit and a few correspondences, your next step is:
Writing Your Pact
Writing a pact seems like it should be fairly straightforward. After all, you’re basically writing out a contract. The word “pact” just seems more medieval or magical. So there really isn’t a giant amount to put out there on exactly how to solidify your pact prior to calling the spirit. But, here are a few tips that you might want to take into account.
Write it out by hand. Typing up a pact and printing it out just seems to be less mystical. But more than that, I’ve had better results by actually writing it out. Even if it turns into a few pages of handwritten content, it’s worth it in the end.
Be uber-clear on what you want. Well, mostly clear. I say, “mostly clear,” because you don’t want to limit the entity to a few menial tasks, if it’s to be your long-term familiar. If you want the entity to deliver information to you that you would otherwise not know, when you ask for it, make sure to state that. If you want the spirit to use it’s abilities to rearrange situations in your favor, as you request it, state that, as well. If you’re specifically looking for a familiar who gives you truthful, and only truthful, insight when you read the Tarot, make that clear. State your desire, need, or reason for working with a familiar very clearly. One spirit can do multiple tasks, so try not to limit what you can accomplish with the entity.
Be uber-clear on what and when you’ll feed the spirit, and hold up your end of the bargain. You’ll want to feed it regularly. I usually write in a couple of standard gifts that are regular offerings. But I also include one or two really awesome, tasty or expensive items I’m willing to offer in case of emergency situations or a really Big Ask.
Be uber-clear on what behavior or requests will be a breach of contract, both on your part and the part of the spirit. I was not clear about this when I wrote out my pact with Pan. I’ve not really had any major adverse effects from skipping this step. Pan sometimes likes to wake me up mid-sleep to announce something, or pop into my dreams uninvited. I don’t consider that a breach of contract or a problem with our relationship. If you do, make those things a part of your pact. But remember: you also don’t want to limit the spirit’s activity too much – you’re going for results here, and sometimes odd little bits (like being awakened mid-sleep) might be necessary for certain situations. You don’t want to limit communication, so think it through before you add it in.
If you want this to be a long-term relationship (as with most familiars), don’t apply a limited timeframe. I have worked with spirits before and wrote a limited time-frame into the pact. But that was only when I wanted to work with the spirit for a very specific goal, which would be highly likely to be accomplished in that given span of time. So be sure about this step if you include it. If you limit your relationship to, say, a year, be sure what you’re asking for (very specific, only one or two tasks) can be accomplished in that year. Don’t be unrealistic about your goal and then be shitty to the spirit because you didn’t get what you want. Animism and realism are not enemies!
One final suggestion: don’t stick with the first draft. Write out what you think you want. Do a brainstorming session ahead of time if you’d like. But once it’s written, put it away for a day or two and then come back to it with fresh eyes. Read over it and decide if these things are really what you want, or if there’s something more to add into the pact. You might also discover that there are a few items you don’t need or want to include – strike them out. I recommend putting it away again for another day or two, and then going over it again. Re-write as much as you think you need to. Take your time with this, because this isn’t a child’s plaything – it’s a spirit you’ll be calling up.
Remember back up near the top when I wrote that you have the authority, that you’re the powerful one in this relationship? You are. But that doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole. Don’t play around with a spirit’s emotions. Just because you have authority doesn’t mean you can’t get hurt. Spirits are actual beings, and even though they don’t have physical forms that can smack you across the face, there are other ways they can do you immense harm if you don’t hold up your end of the game.
Time for the Ritual
Here’s the deal – my plan was to write a full-on ritual and put it in this post for you to follow. But I don’t know what your specific ideas about the Craft and how ritual works might be. I also don’t know the spirit you’re calling up to work with, since that, and any correspondences and materials that go with it, are something you come up with while reading this post (or soon thereafter).
So what I’ve done is create a “plug-and-play” style ritual. This is the exact ritual that I used to pact with an Indigenous North American Tribal Medicine Man (what folks today keep calling a “Shaman”). To use this “plug-and-play” ritual, all you have to do is fill in the blanks.
There’s room for you to put in what you’re using as the house (statue, ceramic pot, wax figure, box, etc.), as well as what ingredients you’ll be adding to the house to make it more inviting for the spirit.
There are also spots for you to add in words that you’ll be using to call upon the entity, and any special tools you might need.
The ritual is built around my way of doing ritual. It does not come from any specific Tradition, so feel free to adapt it to your needs. You’ll create sacred space, call to the spirit and put the house together, and then take down sacred space.
I recommend using planetary timing to perform your ritual. If you absolutely cannot, then do it when you can. If you don’t use planetary timing, then try to perform the ritual on the night (or day) three days before the next full moon. This way, you have a few days to repeat the ritual if you feel it necessary. In my experience, the spirits I have called to when doing this ritual all tend to show up on the night of the full moon in their full force and power. If you’re sensitive to energies and/or spirits, you may notice a giant shift in the atmosphere of the room where your spirit house is located. Don’t let it spook you (especially if you’re new) – just know that the entity has arrived and is perusing it’s dwelling place. You can give it one of the regular offerings when this energy shift happens as a welcome gift, if you want.
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When the Spirit Moves In
I cannot say enough how important it is to feed your spirit. Any offering you give it should be stated in your pact. Regular offerings are important. Like any other living entity, spirits need sustenance to survive. Food is taken in, transmuted into energy, and the energy is expended in some way, just as with humans. Any non-corporeal entity is going to need this from you. The issue is that sometimes people forget to feed their spirits, and sooner or later, the spirit gets sick and tired of constantly having to fend for themselves.
This was not your bargain. You promised to feed them. So feed them. If you don’t, you run the danger of them turning around and feeding on you, which could potentially cause you long-term illnesses that you didn’t ask for when you pacted. I have seen it happen a number of times that a spirit will wreak havoc in a person’s life when the person doesn’t keep up his/her promise.
To do actual work with your spirit, use the spirit house you created as a point of contact. I never do a full-on ritual just to call to an entity after it has moved into its house. If you create a sigil for it (or if it has one already), trace it in the air over the vessel. Then say the spirit’s name a few times (I like three or seven, depending). And finally, make your request. Let the spirit know that you’ll continue its regular feedings if it does this work for you. Say, “Thanks,” and light a stick of incense or a tea-lite for it or something. Then go on about your day.
If it’s what I call a “Big Ask” – something that is really important or needs to be done rather quickly – you can state that. But also let the spirit know that you’re going to do something a little extra special for it, since it’s such a huge deal for you.
Please try to keep the area where your spirit house is located clean. It doesn’t have to be so pristine that Bree Van de Kamp (from the show Desperate Housewives) would be impressed with your skills, but keep it nice. Spirits tend not to like a lot of clutter. I give this advice because I have a tendency to find an empty surface and shudder every time I walk by it until I finally just have to put something there. If there’s an uncovered inch of a table surface, I’ve got to fill that damned thing with some item or another. It’s a horrible habit, but it’s mine and I own it. It takes everything inside of me to try and keep my altars and shrines uncluttered – and sometimes I fail at it.
Another note on offerings: sometimes, it’s just nice to be a good person and give something extra to your familiar without asking for something in return. It builds rapport and relationship. I’m known to throw an extra tea-lite on the altar here and there just to show Pan some love. But don’t do this too often, because an overfed spirit is a fat spirit, and fat spirits are lazy. They tend not to fulfill your requests if they know they’ll automatically get that extra something regardless of their work ethic.
Which leads me to this question: is it ever necessary to really scold or discipline a spirit?
The answer, quite simply, is yes.
There may be times when the familiar refuses to do something for you. It may be that the request is simply out of the entity’s personal moral code – something they wouldn’t have normally done if they were alive. My Indigenous North American Medicine Man, for example, doesn’t advocate the use of force or violence except in situations that threaten to take my life away. He’ll help me communicate with plants and learn what they can do magically, and he’ll help me communicate with other spirits, or work with the land. But he won’t do anything that requires another living creature to be put in harms way unless it is threatening my existence. I can’t discipline him for that, because it’s his way of life.
If, however, it were a spirit from the Lemegeton, and it had a major problem with cursing someone, I might question whether it’s a legit spirit from the Lemegeton. Why? Well – even though I don’t consider these spirits “evil,” I do know from experience that they’re rather like mobsters. Yes, that’s not a typo – mobsters. The spirits from the Lemegeton are, in a sense, staunch capitalists. Everything is a business deal for them. Literally everything. If they’re getting paid for it, they don’t mind doing it. It’s like that line in the Pink Floyd song: “Every man’s got his price, Bob – and yours is pretty low.”
If an entity is fat and lazy, it won’t do the work. If an entity is refusing to work, this may be the case. Hold off on feeding it. There have been a few times I’ve let a particular spirit know that if the work doesn’t get done, it won’t be getting its reward.
There was this one time when I’d made a different request of about three spirits. There was a time limit on those requests. And the spirits were very slow in getting anything moving. So I had to say aloud to every spirit I work with, “Well folks, y’all know, every spirit that lives in this house, works. And if you don’t work, there’s a dumpster I can introduce you to standing right outside the kitchen door. Let’s make this happen, or we’ll have to have a disciplinary conference.” It tends to get things stirred up so that circumstances start changing. Quickly.
I’m not too harsh with my spirits, though. Most of the time. I give them a bit of a break. Honestly, no one wants to spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at work. So I let them rest. But when I need something, I expect them to get off their haunches and make a move. And they know it. I love them and I treat them with kindness and respect, but I will put my foot down when necessary. I don’t want them to operate for me out of fear, but out of love – or at least out of the obligation to repay a debt.
My great grandmother was famous for an old saying (it’s a pretty common saying): “You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.” In other words: there’s no need to go around being a pissy bitch all the time. And even if you have to be a pissy bitch, you can fake it to catch that fucking fly. Or at least you can fake it with most humans. I think spirits are more likely to see through the bullshit and call your bluff. So if you’re pissed at them, be pissed, but make sure they know why. And then try to move forward in the relationship. If things still aren’t working out, or the spirits aren’t working, it might be time to call it quits.
When to Say Goodbye, and How
As much as I hate to admit it, most, if not all, good things come to an end. Even relationships with your most beloved familiar spirits may come to an end. And no one likes an ending.
How do you know when it’s time to say, “So long?” There are a few pretty strong indicators.
First, if you’ve tried to get your spirit to fulfill a request multiple times and it just won’t (as long as the request is within the spirit’s own morality), it might be time to let it go. This is especially so if you’ve made different requests, and none of them are being worked at by your familiar.
Second, maybe their spirit vessel just doesn’t have any energy surrounding it at all anymore. Maybe standing in front of it and doing your usual method of request is yielding no power at all. This means it’s time to set them free. They may have already gone at this point, but a ritual severance is best.
Third, if your spirit pal appears to you in a dream or wakes you mid-sleep to say, “Farewell,” you should probably go ahead and do a ritual of severance.
None of this really means the spirit is dead, per se. It just means that the two of you need to part ways.
Again, I thought about writing out a full-on ritual to put here in the post. But this post has gone on quite long enough. So instead … once again, you can use the plug-and-play ritual to put together a ritual of severance. In the main body of the ritual, just reverse the process of putting together your spirit house. Take it apart, separate the bits, say farewell to your friend. And then, bury all of the pieces. You can never use these items for another magical endeavor. Don’t try cleansing them, as it will only serve to make future magic with these items ineffective. Bury them, preferably out of the way somewhere in your own back yard. If you can’t bury them there, find a graveyard where you can bury the items in a corner somewhere, privately, away from prying eyes.
The Way Forward
With all of this information (and it is a lot), I hope you can appreciate why I wanted you to figure out whether this was for you, before you go through it. While I don’t consider spirits to necessarily all be dangerous, there are some. And while I don’t have difficulty working with spirits, there can be some trying times (like when they refuse to work, or you have to say goodbye). This isn’t a decision to make on the fly or on a whim. And you should take your time to pick your spirit, do some research on them, and truly dig deep within yourself before attempting to work with one of them.
Working with spirits can skyrocket the power behind your rituals and spellcraft. And there’s no need to be leery or afraid of working with spirits. But like every relationship in life, sometimes it behooves one to sit down and think about it first.